Good social relationships are among the most important things in life for living beautifully, though building them isn’t always easy. Forming and maintaining healthy relationships can be challenging, but their importance is undeniable, as they relate to the very reality of life. This is a crucial topic to discuss since it encompasses:
- Social Structure,
- Social Behavior,
- Social Process.
Awkwardness often arises from pride, prejudice, bullying, or being in the minority within a group—this can honestly make you feel smaller than your peers. You may become anti-social if your mindset is shaped by negative past experiences.
First, it’s necessary to understand that being socially awkward is completely normal, even though its effects can be severe. The good news is that it can be changed or transformed. Many people experience these situations, especially those who do not socialize in their communities. (Social media is not included in this discussion.) Let’s begin: Isn’t it true that people who do not socialize are often seen as socially awkward? But don’t extroverts also face social challenges? Our expressions and behaviors are always noticed and judged, so introverts and extroverts alike may experience awkwardness. This emotional reality stems from overflowing feelings. Small lapses in mindfulness are one reason why awkwardness can arise. Whether you feel proud, happy, or small, social awkwardness can find its place, regardless of your wealth or status. Some people have strong egos, which can cause or worsen awkwardness. Often, awkwardness is triggered by someone’s ego, hurtful words, or emotional unrest. Those who have been abused or traumatized are especially likely to become socially awkward or even anti-social—yet all of us need a solid social life. Social awkwardness is, in many ways, a result of emotional dysfunction.
What does it mean to be socially awkward? The definition varies from person to person. There’s a traditional saying: “The more siblings you have, the richer your social world.” This highlights that having support and a sense of belonging carries people through life’s ups and downs. The emotional world can pull you down harder than the physical one. Solitude can be good, but it isn’t healthy for a lifetime. Hurting or being hurt by others can linger, turning someone inward and intensifying awkwardness. It’s easier to recall faults than remember others’ kindness. Life can seem unfair—there’s even a saying: once a liar, always a liar. However, by being careful, gentle, and patient, your social life (or someone else’s) can improve. Responsibility for good social health lies in your hands as much as anyone else’s. In reality, a better world would have emerged if we all upheld such values, but we live in a capitalist society.
There are coping mechanisms for socially awkward people. Every problem has a solution—there is hope. Never lose hope; it truly sustains life. Growing up, you find the world full of traps and challenges, and we’re all at risk of losing our way. Fear is both a challenge and a gift. The essentials are to speak up, stay physically and mentally fit, and be true to yourself. Many times, you’ll find yourself in situations you can’t control—life is like sliding down a hill, pulled by a horse. That’s just how it is.
It isn’t wise to stop mingle with those who don’t care about you. Life is too short to waste with people who don’t understand or enjoy your company. Still, life can be adjusted: you can become more social. Choose kindness, friendliness, and simplicity. Look for meaning—truth, honesty, love. Happiness isn’t about wealth; there’s joy in a simple life. Things often get worse when we compare ourselves to others. Relationships matter deeply. Life’s other side is fierce competition. Try to handle every situation properly so you have no regrets. Rise after you fall. Mind your finances. If you are a student, study hard. Make noise, excel, be a “nerd,” stay content, and keep good friends. Traditional wisdom about social life still holds value in most situations today, even though it may not apply to all forms of awkwardness.
Social awkwardness may also arise from the person’s ego, or from social hierarchy and exclusion. It’s terrible to feel outcast or labeled within your own community or group, a place where you should belong. This is where awkwardness begins. It’s also very real to say that someone might be humiliating you due to temperament or other factors.
Here’s the key: Don’t always blame yourself. Justify your actions as much as you can, but accept responsibility if you were at fault. Be honest, and apologize if needed. If you think you bear some responsibility, introspection is vital.
Imagine attending a party and feeling awful afterward—rejected and incomplete. Your mind races, wondering what went wrong. You sigh. Maybe you feel guilty. You pretend everything’s fine, but it isn’t. You wonder what, why, and how. Maybe you hurt someone; maybe someone hurt you. That’s life. Take it easy—it usually comes down to “fault.”
[By “fault,” I mean something non-physical. Physical issues are another matter; here we’re talking about close relationships, in the neighborhoods or circles where you are closely tied.]
- Your fault—whether through words or behavior. Aggressiveness, negative gestures, and so on can hurt others, even when you care deeply.
- Faults of those around you—they may misjudge or hold wrong views about you, resulting in bullying or conflict. It hurts your heart.
What matters most is simply “being yourself.” If you feel like an outsider, adjustment is key. How can you reshape your image or presence? Escaping before healing yourself (and others) may have serious consequences, even though it sometimes feels like the only option. Remember, the effects of hurt can be much bigger than expected, and feeling “cooked” or “hooked” is what awkwardness is about.
There are good people, and there are bad people. Don’t lie—it can come back to harm you. Truth sets you free. Don’t cheat, or you may regret it. Build a beautiful life. Don’t burden yourself with lies; it’s shameful to find happiness in them. Happiness is tied to honesty. Status isn’t everything. Stay humble and look for new perspectives—watch the sunrise and sunset, don’t chase money. Simplicity brings happiness. Cherish your time, family, and community. Work hard; every bit of effort counts. Even if you’re tired and alone, keep going. Your parents may not understand your business or challenges, but that doesn’t mean you’re “smaller” than before. Growth comes from hard work.
Good friends help heal trauma. Find people you trust to share your feelings with—don’t bottle them up. However, be mindful of who you confide in; not everyone needs to know your deepest thoughts. If you’re strong enough, keeping things to yourself is fine, but opening up to trustworthy people is often more helpful. Social life is not “nothing”—it’s everything.
Finally, always try to be kind, whether or not you are at fault. If something is off, hold your feelings and listen for others who need to speak. Leadership means handling situations properly. If you’re not in charge, sometimes it’s best to remain silent, as speaking up might worsen things.
To improve, keep emotions balanced and focus on honest communication. Practical tips include:
- Make direct eye contact, but not to the point of discomfort.
- Be assertive and open to new ideas.
- Find joy in interactions.
- Stand up for what is right.
- Cultivate at least one good friend.
- Don’t exclude others.
- Be understanding.
- Pause before speaking.
- Reject bullying.
- Avoid ego-driven behavior.
- Give your friends space.
- Be accommodating.
- Allow others to express themselves.
- Be a good listener.
- Don’t dominate conversations.
